Being a parent is not an easy job. I don’t understand why there is no school or discipline that attempts to teach it considering that it’s one of the most difficult professions in the world. I remember when me and my husband were about to have our first child. We tried our best preparing for the coming of our son, read parenting books, listened to the anecdotes of long time parents, and tried to borrow our nieces and nephews just to have a firsthand experience of having a child at home.
So much have been said and done, but when our little guy came about, we were still nowhere near ready. We weren’t exempted from the jitters and nerves of having the first child, at one point we panicked. But that is how parenting is, we learn based from experience and it’s always a case to case basis. Raising a child can be very laborious and stressful at times, especially when your little one becomes a teen. As I’ve said earlier, you cannot really learn how to parent your child through any material but experience, this blog only attempts to give you a hindsight in case.
Listen
As much as we want our kids listening to our every whim, our kids no matter how young they are also need to be listened to. Do not underestimate their capability to voice out their thoughts and opinions. You’ll be surprised on how your kids know about a lot of things. Like for example you wanted to buy your son a mobile back case for his smartphone, instead of deciding it yourself, you can ask him about his likes, his choice of design, his preferred color, or maybe he knows an online mobile store where you can get what he wants.
Trust
I get it, parents will do anything to protect their children from whatever outside forces that may corrupt their innocent minds now that we are in the digital age with the latest gadgets everywhere in sight. Parents tend to be over protective with their kids but most of the time they forget that no matter how young they are, they already have developed a certain sense of self preservation, as well as a sense of what is right and what is wrong. Keep in mind that it wouldn’t hurt your kid if he commits mistakes once in a while, that’s how he will learn. So you must learn to trust him with his decisions and give him some space to spread his wings.
Say Sorry
I know it’s hard to say sorry especially to our children, because we try our best to preserve our credibility over them and impose them our authority as parents. But that doesn’t mean that we should not apologise if it really was our fault. Contrary to what others believe, saying sorry and acknowledging your mistakes will merit you extra respect credits to your child. It wouldn’t really hurt if every once in a while you swallow some of your pride and say sorry, especially to teens.
At the end of the day, it will just be you and your kid. It’s not always them who learn from us, most of the time it’s us who learn from them.
So much have been said and done, but when our little guy came about, we were still nowhere near ready. We weren’t exempted from the jitters and nerves of having the first child, at one point we panicked. But that is how parenting is, we learn based from experience and it’s always a case to case basis. Raising a child can be very laborious and stressful at times, especially when your little one becomes a teen. As I’ve said earlier, you cannot really learn how to parent your child through any material but experience, this blog only attempts to give you a hindsight in case.
Listen
As much as we want our kids listening to our every whim, our kids no matter how young they are also need to be listened to. Do not underestimate their capability to voice out their thoughts and opinions. You’ll be surprised on how your kids know about a lot of things. Like for example you wanted to buy your son a mobile back case for his smartphone, instead of deciding it yourself, you can ask him about his likes, his choice of design, his preferred color, or maybe he knows an online mobile store where you can get what he wants.
Trust
I get it, parents will do anything to protect their children from whatever outside forces that may corrupt their innocent minds now that we are in the digital age with the latest gadgets everywhere in sight. Parents tend to be over protective with their kids but most of the time they forget that no matter how young they are, they already have developed a certain sense of self preservation, as well as a sense of what is right and what is wrong. Keep in mind that it wouldn’t hurt your kid if he commits mistakes once in a while, that’s how he will learn. So you must learn to trust him with his decisions and give him some space to spread his wings.
Say Sorry
I know it’s hard to say sorry especially to our children, because we try our best to preserve our credibility over them and impose them our authority as parents. But that doesn’t mean that we should not apologise if it really was our fault. Contrary to what others believe, saying sorry and acknowledging your mistakes will merit you extra respect credits to your child. It wouldn’t really hurt if every once in a while you swallow some of your pride and say sorry, especially to teens.
At the end of the day, it will just be you and your kid. It’s not always them who learn from us, most of the time it’s us who learn from them.
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